忙碌的日子里，只觉得风透过单裤，让人有打寒颤的冲动，离国庆才一个月，而我已经从秋天走进冬天了，度日如年，总觉得时间过得好慢，可心底又希望这时间越慢越好，把能留住的都留住。

    借着院庆回了学校，我喜欢走田家炳那条路，不宽，两边的树叶全变成金色的了，微风吹起，洒落一地，哀伤的才是最美的，因为人不会珍惜手上的幸福。秋天真的来了，这是我离开学校后第一个自己过得秋天，好希望它能长一些，我留恋那些温暖，留恋湛蓝的天空和灿烂的阳光。走在路上我并没有去回忆过去四年的点滴，反而自责怎么没有在无聊的大学生活中多欣赏身边的景色。

     不希望秋天这么快过去，因为我害怕过冬，习惯性手脚冰冷，大半夜都睡不着。不知道老房子里的暖气够不够温暖我。还有心……

我是木脑壳
你说的没错
我喜欢简单生活
事情一复杂我就会想要躲
有心事我对着狗说

我是木脑壳
你真会概括
我喜欢简单选择
我只对我爱的人和事执著
一根筋到底
就是我的性格

喔，敲敲木脑壳
说你就爱这样笨的我
世界上最最独一无二
聪明人那么多
快乐的有几个
我不要做满身是伤的强者
那才不是我

记得妈妈说过
要光明磊落
我对他承诺
会做到的
对你这样爱着
让你幸苦了
只要你懂得
我还害怕什么

敲敲木脑壳
说你就爱这样真的我
要活就活出自己的本色
脚踏实地的做
总会看到收获
有那一颗钻石不需要打磨
也许就是我

一个人呆着的时候总想看星星，想想心事。可是北京上空那厚实的尘层，透不出一丝星光...

北京的孩子们，你们的童年没有星光，遗憾。

Welcome, family and friends. We have gathered here today to joyfully
acknowledge the wedding of T and U. They have requested
your presence on this memorable occasion in order that you might share
with them the pledging of their everlasting love on this, their day of
commitment. Let us join with them as we hear these sacred words from 1st
Corinthians, Chapter 13:
“Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not
arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not
irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in
the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things,
endures all things.
Love never ends. So, Faith, Hope and Love abide, these three: but the
greatest of these is Love.” Let us pray:
Lord, in this quiet hour, we come together to celebrate the union of
these two beloved persons. May each of them recognize the beauty and
divinity in the other, and may each of us not only share their special
love, but may we radiate that specialness to each other and to all the
world. May this shared love add to the beauty of all of life. Amen

Minister’s Address
The commitment of marriage is one of the most important decisions two
people will make in their lives. The vow of marriage is a pledge of
everlasting love, uniting you in holy matrimony, whereby you commit to
share all life has to offer, the good and the adverse, with patience and
understanding.
For your marriage to remain strong, your faith in each other must never
waiver because of the trials and tribulations of everyday life.
Remember, the power of love can conquer all obstacles.
A strong marriage is dependent upon many factors. Beyond the love and
respect you share for one another, there must be a strong sense of
commitment and loyalty that bonds you in one indivisible unit.
Above all there must be a true friendship and the willingness to
communicate with one another. A genuine liking for each other, the
willingness to accept and understand each other’s strengths and
weaknesses, is the foundation for a strong and successful marriage.
An unknown poet penned these words on:
The Art of Marriage
The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say, “I love you” at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other,
not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation,
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo
or the wife to have the wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere
in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the Spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which
the independence is equal, dependence is mutual,
and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner,
it is BEING the right partner.
This is “The Art of Marriage”

The Vow Ceremony
Today, as you exchange the vows which unite you as husband and wife, let
us reflect on the nature of a vow. By definition, a vow is a solemn
promise or pledge that binds one to act in a certain manner. The vows
you pledge today are a formal and public announcement of your deep and
devoted love and commitment to one another. So now, will you face each
other and affirm your vows:
T first, “I, T, promise you, U, / to share with you / all of
my love and my life / in good times and bad, / to respect and to cherish
you / as my wife from this day forward. / Nothing shall become more
important / than our love for each other.”
And now, U, “I, U, promise you, T, / to share with you / all of
my love and my life / in good times and bad, / to respect and to cherish
you / as my husband from this day forward. / Nothing shall become more
important / than our love for each other.”
The Ring Ceremony
Do you have symbols to seal your vows? (The rings please)
The wedding ring is an unbroken circle which symbolizes unending and
everlasting love. It is a visible symbol which represents your inner
commitment to one another. May your life together be blessed with
everlasting happiness as you wear these symbols.
As you seal your pledge with rings, repeat after me: T  first,
“as I place this ring on your hand, / may our separate lives become one /
as we commit our everlasting love to each other.”
Now, U“as I place this ring on your hand, / may our separate
lives become one / as we commit our everlasting love to each other.”

Wedding Blessing
Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to each other.
Now there is no more loneliness for you,
For each of you will be comfort to the other.
Though you are two bodies,
There is but one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place,
To enter into the days of your togetherness.
And, may the days of your life
Be good and long upon the earth.

And now, with the blessings of those present, under the authority
granted me by the god, I pronounce you, husband and wife.
You may now exchange kisses
Ladies and gentlemen, may I present:
T & U!!

　谁是送花人？

　　认识他是在去年的夏季，我刚从大学校门出来，在一家公司做文员，他就在我的隔壁。是一家贸易公司的业务主管。

　　电梯里，我和他时常碰面，每次我们总是相视一笑。他个子很高，长得也蛮帅。公司里的几位女生有时会拿我和他开玩笑，说我们很般配。我一直也没放在心上。有一次，我和他在过道里碰见，一起往外走时，迎面碰上我的经理。经理看着他的神情很奇怪，我离开时，还听见主管拍着他的肩头说：“小伙子，不错啊。瑾子是个好女孩，你可要好好珍惜啊！”

　　有一天早上，我刚上班，就有人推开门拥着一大束艳红的玫瑰叫我的名字。在一帮女同事艳羡的目光中，我接过了玫瑰，送花人没有署名。刚来这个公司，很多同学和朋友都还未来得及联系，又有谁会送我玫瑰呢？我在兴奋中猜了整整一上午。

　　终于在一片凌乱的印象中，我想到了他。果然，下午一下班，我就在电梯门前遇上了他。他说：“我特意在这等你的！一起吃饭吧！”虽然事先做过很多设想，包括他会和我说什么样的话，但见了他，我居然什么话都说不出来了，只是“哦”了一声，便跟着他进了电梯。

　　我觉得自己被他宠坏了

　　曾经幻想中的爱情就这么不知不觉地来临了。和他有了一段时间的接触后，才发现，他不仅外表出众，而且连性格脾气也都无可挑剔。

　　每次他请我吃饭，总是先问我想吃什么。男人最怕逛街，他只要有时间，就带我去明珠去解放路，大包小包跟在我身后。我要看电影，他就先打电话问好，然后把吃饭看电影的时间安排好，再带着我去……只要他和我在一起，无论我想做什么，他都会尽量满足我。

　　我觉得自己渐渐被他宠坏了。有时晚上躺在床上，我都会想，我的爱情是不是过于完美？他是不是上天注定要派给我，守护我一生的使者？

　　也许正因为一切进行得太顺，反让我总有一种不太塌实的感觉。他的温柔、细腻乃至包容，使我感觉到那不是一个涉“情”未深的男人所能表现出的成熟。虽然他在我面前闭口不谈他过去的一切，可我还是能从他闪烁不定的眼神里，看到另一个女孩存在的影子。那个隐藏在我们背后的女孩究竟是谁呢？

　　隐藏在他背后的女孩

　　这种猜测渐渐根深蒂固。每次我一问起他的过去，他脸上的笑容就会立即凝固住，虽然他总是说：“过去的都过去了，我们应该注重和珍惜的是现在！”但掩饰不住的是他眉头间的一丝忧怅。

　　有一天，在他的房间，无意中翻开一本旧杂志，竟在书的扉页上，写有这么一行文字：“遗忘一段爱情最好的办法是开始一段新的恋情。”看笔迹，是他写的。而那本杂志恰恰是他和我相恋的前一个月份的。

　　我无法再保持沉默。我开始背着他，向他的朋友和亲戚打听他的过去。而那一段时间，我更加明显地感觉到，他待我的好，他所做的一切只是为了让我开心，而他自己也许从没有开心过。

　　从他的一位好友和他的妹妹那里，我终于了解了他的过去和一个叫阿棉的女孩。

　　他和阿棉在儋州时曾经是高中同学，两个人从高中时期开始恋爱到后来他大学毕业同居，前后有8年的时间。他大学毕业后进了公司做业务主管，而阿棉只有高中文化，来海口后，只能找到一份营业员的工作。加上他的家境较好，而阿棉早年丧父，母亲还有病。身份和学历上的差距，使得他的父母对这桩婚事表现出了明显的不满，他的母亲给他们下了最后通牒：“只能同居，不能结婚！”他是个孝子，而阿棉脾气一向很倔强，两个人的感情因此有了裂缝。去年，就在他和我相恋4个月前，阿棉回了儋州，丢下了他们8年的爱情。

　　后来，听人说阿棉很快有了男友，他感到无比的痛苦和绝望。于是，他在茫然之中，开始了和我的恋情。

　　我帮他找回失去的爱情

　　得知这一切，我的心在那个炎热的夏夜里结了冰。经过反复考虑，我决定去找阿棉，我想了解她和他的感情是否还有复苏的可能，我不希望我的爱情一直在她的阴影下生存。最坏的可能，如果他们依然忘不了对方，我宁愿退出，而成全他。

　　我从阿棉以前做过的超市同事那里，要到了她儋州的联系电话。当天晚上，我就打电话给阿棉，以他的一个普通朋友的身份，告诉她：他失去她后的痛苦和失意。虽然我打电话前，曾设想过她的种种反应，可是我没想到她当即就哭了，然后对我说：“谢谢你！你把他的电话给我，我会和他联系的！”我懵了，停了半天，才生硬地说出了那几个数字，直到她挂掉电话，我还拿着话筒愣在那里。

　　半小时后，他给我打来了电话：“我说过那是过去的事了，你干吗又去找她？！”这是他和我相识以来，第一次冲我发了脾气。可是，他的语气里明显带着激动的成分。

　　在后来的日子里，就好像什么都没有发生过一样，他依然经常约我出去散步、逛街或是看看电影，但我总觉得我和他之间的距离也在延伸。他有时会当着我的面接听阿棉打来的电话，有时语气很沉重，有时，表情又明显地似雨后天晴。

　　今年过年，他回了一趟儋州老家，这期间，他也时常往海口打电话，对我都是些嘘寒问暖的话。我一直没有问他和阿棉的事，说不清是回避还是什么。我一直很痛苦也很矛盾。

　　分手的话只有一句“谢谢”

　　年后他回到海口，虽然对我还是一如既往的好。但我已明显地感觉到他的心不在焉。有天，我终于鼓起勇气问起阿棉的情况，他只说了一句，阿棉已到海口，但工作不好找。有一天，我听到他接听一个电话，好像是他的一个朋友，说可以介绍阿棉去一个书店上班。他不停地问：“确定吗？确定吗？”得到肯定的答复后，他放下电话，神情立即飞扬起来。那是我第一次看到他那么开心。也就在那一刻，我预感到，我和他的感情到了尽头。

　　阿棉在书店上班后，经常会出现在我上班的那栋楼下。我无法面对同事们好奇的目光，渐渐疏远了和他的距离。有时，隔着玻璃窗，看着楼下他和阿棉离去的身影，我的心就像裂开了一样，生生的疼痛。

　　但我表面还要装作一副无所谓的样子。我给他打电话，很轻松地对他说：“我们分手吧，你和她还是和好吧！”他在电话里问我：“你不介意吗？你真的不在乎？”我的泪水止不住地流下来，滴在话筒上，我压低了声音说：“没什么啊，我们还是朋友，不是吗？！”他半天没说话，后来我听见他说了句：“谢谢你！”声音很重。我知道，那是他从心底发出的声音。

　　本来我没有理由离开那家公司，可是，我实在不知该怎样面对他，楼道里的相逢、电梯里的偶遇。我辞了职，去了海淀岛的一家小公司。我只想离他远远的，把自己藏起来。我换了手机，再也没有给他打过电话。可是，去年过年的时候，我还是听到了他和阿棉要结婚的消息。那一刻，我泪流满面。